Freaky incident
Last nite, hb & I were chatting away before turning in when I saw Sher put smthing into her mouth. Within seconds, she spit out the and she wore a "yucks" expression. To my horrid, we realised that it was a spiders nest/eggs... which she picked on the floor... OH GOSH>>> IT REALLY FREAKED ME OUT!! SO GROSS especially when we found out what it is.. I can't imagine further if she swallowed it...
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Shouting Match
Recently, Sher was in her worst behaviour, she's always shouting, screaming and bursting into tears for whatever reason. As our HK trip is coming soon, I just can't imagine any worst would happen throughout the trip. She could really find excuses whenever she was about to be reprimanded. Like saying, Don't shout at me.. I TELL YOU. (her tone was demanding) She was also rude to people, threatening to beat people.. (don't know where she learn all these) The worst was when I heard my mil relating to me.. on how she scolded my ger when she was way out of line.. Sher could say "I hate you".
Just wish tis phase will soon be over. PRaying for more patience as I know it's running out for both Hubby and me. It upsets me that she is behaving this way... all the more heartbreaking that I felt inadequate as a mommy...
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Locked Out!
Seein the above post title, you would have guessed what's happening. Recently, Sher is into locking doors, anythin that hve doors, her itchy lit' fingers will lock it. I was lounging around yesterday, watching serial drama in the living area when sher locked my bedroom door. All my keys n belongings were in the room. I was furious and worst of all, daddy hppned to be on a working trip. My initial plan to go inlaw's place for dinner was foiled and fortunately, all phone was lying ard the living area.
Called my inlaw for help and fil was nice to buy us dinner. Finally, hb came home at 11+ & ended tis bad episode of locked out.
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Where do you live?
Whenever my bro asked the little ger where she live. She will reply with pride "Bukit Jamban" -Toilet in malay... Although she could say it correctly, she refused and like to amuse us with her reply.
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How do you cope with toddler tantrums?
It is a natural human emotion to lose our temper. But when it comes to losing it on our children, it suddenly brings out the devil in us. (Could'nt quite agree)
A study done by the UK National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children (NSPCC) suggests that parents who lose their temper often are four times more likely to hit their baby or toddler. What’s worrying is that statistics indicate that one in six of us admit we shout at our children every day and six out of 10 of us have hit our little ones.
Boiling point
Parenting expert at the NSPCC says there are common triggers for losing your temper with your toddler. "Just toddlers being toddlers – throwing their toys on the floor, having tantrums, playing with or doing something dangerous, refusing to do what you’ve asked them, or being aggressive – can drive you to distraction sometimes. Yet all this is perfectly normal behaviour in the under threes," she says.
Furthermore, she adds, "If you've had little sleep, or are feeling very stressed, or bored stuck at home, or anxious or frustrated about relationship or money issues, then your toddler's behaviour can make you lose control. And we've all been there."
When you lose your temper, this can be confusing and frightening for your child. "What they do one day may not provoke your anger, but on another day it may. They get mixed messages," Hayes explains.
Jo Douglas, clinical psychologist and author of Toddler Troubles agrees that it is easy to feel as if your children are deliberately stirring you up. "But they're not," she assures us. "They may be trying to exert their independence, or get your attention. Often they resort to screaming because they're not able to express their feelings. And young children have short memories so perhaps they can’t remember they’re not supposed to do something."
Stay calm
The key to staying in control is to first ask yourself why you're reacting with rage. When you’ve found out the reason – are you tired, do you need a break, have you been bored to death staying at home all day - you can then find a solution.
If you regularly lose your temper in the long run, you need to ask if you're getting enough sleep or if you're getting enough support from your partner. Perhaps you need help around the house? Or do you need to spend more time outdoors and less time at home? If you feel your temper is out of control, anger management courses can also help.
Most parents don't end up needing professional help, but it makes it easier if you have a few simple strategies on hand. "When I feel I'm boiling with anger, I quickly walk out of the room, even for two minutes, just to calm myself down," says San San, 30, homemaker and mum of James, 18 months. "That way I check myself and make sure I don't do something I would regret later, like smacking him."
If you leave your toddler alone while you get yourself together, always make sure that he's safe when he’s on his own.
Developing some simple mantras or mindsets can also help. "Try repeating to yourself: 'I'm in control' or 'I'm going to stay calm'. And remind yourself that you are the adult – and that you can master your emotions," says Hayes.
Other effective strategies include playing your favourite CD to full blast to distract you away from your anger. You can also put your child in the stroller and get outdoors for some fresh air.
Hayes says, "I tell mothers to remember what they learnt at their antenatal classes – picturing a calming scene such as a river, sea view, anything that can transport them in their mind to a serene place," says Hayes.
Changing your routine can also help in deflating those stressful moments. For example, if he always kicks up a fuss at bath time, you could try asking daddy to do it instead.
As a parent, you need to learn to express your anger more effectively. "Instead of resorting to childish behaviour yourself, calmly repeat what you want your little one to do or not to do,” says Douglas. “Stop a tantrum in its tracks by distracting your child, by saying 'let's play this', or by giving him a hug. Use humour – do a funny dance or pull a funny face."
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Interesting Conversations
Talking to Sher nowadays can be so much fun... below are some that are memorable.
D:
Finish up your food (brekkie) then you can see Big Bird.. (he meant the sesame street musical CD which he bought last nite for her) S:
I don't want to see Big Bird, I want to see small bird. D:
Don't finish your food then you won't see any bird.S:
I miss Daddy alot. Where's daddy now?M:
He's working late, later u tell him ok?S:
Ok Labels: kids-talk
Sweetest Moments
Are when you greets me with smile, hug and dotted kisses after a hard day's work.
Are when you flash a sense of pride to me after you learn & accomplish new things.
Are when you are dependent on me when you can't do things yourself.
are when you know that I love you and you say "I love you too".
are when you say sorry and mean it.
are when you hug me when I'm hurt or sad.
are when u experiences joy when we bond as a family.
Cherish those sweet moments for kids grow so fast
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Check Out Shervon's ABC Adventure
I came across tis link at BW blog. Just did 1 for Sher... hven't show the little one yet. Can't wait to see her reaction on seeing tis
video.
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